In Praise of Leggings as Pants

My body has a weird thing where it cycles up and down about 20-30 pounds every few years. Before you start with the OMG YOYO DIETING IS SO UNHEALTHY, let me reassure you that I don’t diet, and can only attribute these fluctuates to random stuff like geographical location (no, really), relationship status (really, really), […]

2013 Fatkini Review

Ok, so this post is kind of overdue, but I haven’t been able to get to the beach much this year living in Indiana. But I plan to enjoy Hollywood Beach every chance I get on my upcoming 2 week trip to Chicago! I’ve been wearing bikinis while fat for about eight years now, and […]

Femmytomboy by Jera Brown

I’ve always been a little femme and a little tomboy – a princess and a jedi, comfortable with mascara and power tools. Both terms, femme and tomboy, have visual components: they’re tied to certain fashion choices, as well as mannerisms, even one’s presence. But to me, they’re also tied to how I relate to men […]

Style Icon: Shani Akilah Robin

Name:Shani Akilah Robin Your age: 29 years old.  It gets better each year! Your location:  Bloomington, Indiana What do you do, in your own words, and how long have you been doing it? I am an anti-oppression advocate/activist.  My area of focus 9 to 5 pm and beyond is anti sexual assault/domestic violence work.  I […]

Fitness Party: Twerk 2 5K!

If you’re a Ms. Behaved regular, you’re well aware that editors Bianca and Rashaun are both hardcore fathletes- thick hotties who like to get physical for the joy of it, and bust stereotypes about fat people and fitness. Both Rashaun and I are runners (although I run really fucking slow, I’m out there almost everyday […]

Ms. Behaved Style Icon – Lydia Brambila

Name: Lydia Brambila Age: 20 Location: Athens, GA What you “do” in your own words: I go to school, play in bands, work at a library, raise a cat, and sleep like the dead. What is your style philosophy in a nutshell? I like for my everyday wear to both be super comfy and also […]

Photographer Q&A: Mateo of Foto By Mateo

I met Mateo in Chicago, at a kickball game, of all places. I was instantly captivated by his dream-like photography and wanted to share it with Ms. Behaved readers. -Bianca James Name: Mateo Age: 25 Location: Born Pittsburgh, last 5 years, Chicago. I spent 6 months in Hawaii after college in 2009 as well. What do you do, […]

Five Ways to put Essential Oils to Work Around the House

Herbal essential oils do more than makes your house smell good. Nearly all have potent antimicrobial properties and have been shown to reduce depression, focus the mind and even stimulate the immune system. Lemon and pine have long been used in commercial cleaners, but many other oils are just as effective. Eucalyptus, tea tree, lavender, […]

Beyond Harry & David: Birthday Gift Subscriptions for 9% of the [US] Population

There are more American birthdays in August than in any other month, and shopping for some of these birthday boys and girls is a total pain.  Monthly subscription services to the rescue! I am not talking about your meemaw’s  fruit-of-the-month club, there are some fantastic finds.  This list is by no means an all-inclusive, but […]

Getting a Few Things Off My Chest

I have debated whether or not to respond to the ongoing kerfuffle about the snarky essay I wrote about bra fitting and vanity sizing and as a dishonest sales tactic back in April.  The piece ran months ago, with generally positive feedback and thought provoking discussion in the comments. That is, until some people in the […]

I Shaved My Legs For The First Time in A Decade

Read the title up there.  Now, let me clarify something.  I’m only guessing that it’s been a decade since I last shaved.  I’m 31 now, and I know I stopped shaving before I turned 21.  Either way, it had been so long that I actually didn’t quite remember what to do – do I need […]

Congrats to the Winner of the Cake Beauty Giveaway!

Congratulations to Alicia Elliot, winner of Ms. Behaved’s Cake Beauty travel set giveaway, featuring two kinds of yummy cake scented shower gel, two kinds of body lotion, and hand cream! Want some luscious cake scented products of your own? Pop over to Cake Beauty! Enjoy your goodies, Alicia! And don’t despair if you didn’t win […]

Ms. Behaved Style Icon: Melissa Genova

Name: Melissa Genova, aka “Sweet Melissa” Age: 30 Location: Logan Square, Chicago What do you do, in your own words, and how long have you been doing it? Jill of all trades. Sexy Secretary. Grad Student. Cocktail Waitress. Musician. Performer. Writer!   What is your personal fashion philosophy? The easiest thing to change is hair. […]

Ms. Behaved Style Icon: Amanda Lee

Name: Amanda Lee Age: 32 Location: Chicago What do you do, in your own words, and how long have you been doing it? My day job is doing graphic design and administrative items at a PR firm. I’m an artist, working mostly in digital collage and I run the queer plus size fashion blog In The […]

Ms. Behaved Style Icon: Betty Devoe

Name: Betty Devoe Age: 30 Location: Chicago (currently) What do you do, in your own words, and how long have you been doing it? Whore/Performance Artist. The former since I began as an 18-year old fetish model/dominatrix and the later since birth (and working in professional children’s theater in Las Vegas). Currently I am a […]

Mix It, Shake It, Stir It: Your Weekly Guide To Spirits and Cocktails (Gin-It’ll Make Ya Sin!)

Greetings and salutations, my lovely imbibers!  I’m back after an awesome road trip with Bianca and ready to talk about a much misunderstood and often-times snubbed spirit, gin. Now, having worked for a gin distillery for a year, I’ve grown quite partial to the spirit.  This took some time, though. I was totally one of […]

DIY Herbal Rinse for Naturally Shiny, Tangle-free Hair

Last week, Cecelia Strick9 taught us how to get fab beachy hair with coconut oil and sea salt. This week nutrition expert Ilah Jarvis has a recipe for a natural herbal rinse to make straight or wavy hair shiny and smooth!  Nothing gives a cheap hippie like me more satisfaction than discovering that an old […]

Taking a Compliment

As much as I absolutely love and appreciate when my boyfriend pays me a compliment, I have to admit there is no better compliment than one that comes from a completely random woman. A woman you have no connection to, one who is not a friend of a friend of a friend, just a woman […]

Ms. Behaved June Giveaway: Cake Beauty Travel Set!

Congrats again to Kara W. for winning our May Lelo Flickering Touch Candle Giveaway! Don’t despair if you didn’t win last time, because we’re now giving away something fun and yummy for your summer vacation: a Plane Friendly Kit from Canada’s Cake Beauty (retail value: $27.99)! If you love dessert AND fancy beauty products, this is a dream […]

Love Letter from the Fatshion Trenches: Summertime Rolls

Hello my sun worshippers and heliophobes, Is it officially summer yet? (Fuck it, it’s June at any rate!) Let’s talk SUMMER FATSHION today! VAMPY SUNDRESSES First off, fuck pastels. Wear a little black dress as a goth sundress, some high heeled sandals, sunglasses and blingy jewelry and pretend you are a mafia princess (that was […]